November is Adoption Month. I cannot go by without posting about adoption and the amazing blessing that it is. I am so grateful for my Heavenly Father's plan....for ALL of his children.
Little over two years ago, ours lives were changed by adoption. I have so many thoughts on the topic and have felt at times that as a result of our experience, I am here to sing out to the world, so to speak.
There are reasons for everything, and adoption has been the most blessed learning experience we have had, not just for the sake of being able to be parents and have our lives blessed with little dears, but for so many other valuable lessons in life.
We have learned charity for others and knowing that no matter what ones situation is, with the right direction and love, blessings do come. We have learned a little patience for what is in store for us. I say 'a little' because I am still learning patience. We have a greater understanding of Eternal Families.
Open adoption has been a new road we have traveled. Of course adoption itself was new for us, but having an open adoption with Kya's beautiful birthfamilies has been an eye opening experience. I know at times some wonder if we are doing the 'right' thing by being open, and others wonder if we have Kya's best interest in mind, and even others feel our decision was not the best decision. All I have to say is, 'this is a road we are traveling, one step at a time'.
First and foremost, Kya and her little brother, are number 1 priority when it comes to 'best interest'. They will always be the most important people to us and when it comes to their stories and who they are and where they came from, that will come as it is supposed to.
We love our birthfamilies and we love our families, and the way we see it...ultimately...we are all one family.
I am not here to "preach", open adoption is not for everyone or everysituation. I am just grateful that we have been able to have this experience with our daughter, thus far. I thank my Father in Heaven every day for Kya, adoption, temples, eternal families and the families that allow us to be a family hear on earth.
This post was a lot of journaling, and some celebration, but mostly....unconditional GRATITUDE.
Little over two years ago, ours lives were changed by adoption. I have so many thoughts on the topic and have felt at times that as a result of our experience, I am here to sing out to the world, so to speak.
There are reasons for everything, and adoption has been the most blessed learning experience we have had, not just for the sake of being able to be parents and have our lives blessed with little dears, but for so many other valuable lessons in life.
We have learned charity for others and knowing that no matter what ones situation is, with the right direction and love, blessings do come. We have learned a little patience for what is in store for us. I say 'a little' because I am still learning patience. We have a greater understanding of Eternal Families.
Open adoption has been a new road we have traveled. Of course adoption itself was new for us, but having an open adoption with Kya's beautiful birthfamilies has been an eye opening experience. I know at times some wonder if we are doing the 'right' thing by being open, and others wonder if we have Kya's best interest in mind, and even others feel our decision was not the best decision. All I have to say is, 'this is a road we are traveling, one step at a time'.
First and foremost, Kya and her little brother, are number 1 priority when it comes to 'best interest'. They will always be the most important people to us and when it comes to their stories and who they are and where they came from, that will come as it is supposed to.
We love our birthfamilies and we love our families, and the way we see it...ultimately...we are all one family.
I am not here to "preach", open adoption is not for everyone or everysituation. I am just grateful that we have been able to have this experience with our daughter, thus far. I thank my Father in Heaven every day for Kya, adoption, temples, eternal families and the families that allow us to be a family hear on earth.
This post was a lot of journaling, and some celebration, but mostly....unconditional GRATITUDE.
One love.
One true beauty. Thank you to all who support adoption and all it entails.
Dear Kya,
You are so precious. Your beautiful eyes share so many of those who love you and whom you have touched. When first we talked about having a family, I know as every parent, we wanted to be blessed with someone beautiful, loving, caring, sweet and many others attributes. But never did we dream that you would be all, 1000 times over, and so much more.
Both your beautiful birthparents have a song for you..."my wish for you"...and this letter is My wish for you. I wish for you to be happy, to love someone, to always be warm. I wish for you to always feel safe in our arms, for you to be giving and serve others, and to feel the love of your Savior everyday. I wish for you to love those who gave you life and those who showed you the world. I pray that you will always know who you are as a daughter of God, where you came from and where you are going. And in the process of this crazy and wonderful journey, that you will enjoy every moment you have here, every person you meet will remember you for your smile and eminating light you have.
Words really cannot express the love I have for you or the gratitude I have for adoption. I wish for you to always know....
Mommy loves you!
Love Mommy
15 comments:
I can't read your post right now, I got all teared up after the first paragraph. I will try again later, just know we love you guys! oh, & happy late birthday Carl.
That is so sweet! you are so inspiring Paula, and I admire you very much. You are a wonderful daughter of God.
oops...wrote under the wrong heading...that's me (Peck family ties) Shanda. That's my families blog...ha ha
We love adoption and we are very grateful for the blessings it has given our families! It is truely a blessed thing from the Lord! We love little Kya! I am very grateful to you and Carl for all you do!
Paula...
You inspire me so much! I am glad that you guys have been blessed by adoption...whatever way you choose to do it.
Beautifully said Paula. I love the pictures of you, Kya and the birthmom's hands. Very sweet. I can't WAIT to meet your newest little addition. (atleast in the picture version.) :)
I love your words and positive thoughts about adoption, Kya is a very special blessing.
what a different perspective you gave me! the picture says so much of the girls hands and the matching bracelets you will always be connected
I love this month!! :) Thanks for sharing all your beautiful words and pictures.
That is so cute:) I love it you guys are so great
I think what you two do is something that many people can't do. You take children in as your own when their parents can't do it them selves and you give them a great life. Kya is a great, smart, and beautiful little girl. You guys look like awesome parents and Kya's parents and your little boys Parents should be thankful that they are going to have such a great fun loving family!
I just think it is really great what you do!!
Your family deserves the best and all happiness!
Well you know how life works, you just have to roll with the punches. Our punches are just a little different from yours. :)
It has been great watching Kya grow into such a smart beautiful little girl.
Talking bout halloween costumes Kya's was AWESOME, really makes me want to go out and buy the books! :)
I love that you have this blog, now that we are moving to Alaska this is a great way to see little Kya grow. So cute how her and Tyra are so much alike!
Paula, thank you so much for having an open adoption. It's amazing the ripple effect; one life can change so many others. I'm so thankful for the spirit, love, and joy your family has brought into ours. You've given us all a gift no one else could have, by being a part of our family. I hope someday I can stand before God and say that I too have "loved thy neighbor as thyself."
Thank you for everything!
Paula, just as Kya has brought so much love into your life, she has brought it into ours. We are so thankful that we can share her life with you guys. I am so thankful for the time you spend blogging for all of us birth parents and grandparents. We know Kya is adored by you and Carl. We love you guys and thank you for letting us know Kya like we do. Love Ya!
Wow! What neat people you are and Carl are. We think the world of you guys, and wish the very, very best for you!
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